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There is something that bothers me about every article I've read about open relationships.

This line, in particular, in this article:

Despite sufficient evidence that monogamy is not the natural human order, open marriages are viewed as bizarre.

First off, the link is to a CNN article. An OPINION article. Not a scientific paper. That you have "evolutionary psychologists" insisting that men cheat because, I don't know, they have a lot of sperm released per ejaculation (this was a real thing a real evolutionary psychologist argued) is not "sufficient evidence" of anything.

(To specify: the reason men release so much sperm each time they ejaculate is because the inside of the vagina is acidic. Sperm doesn't live for very long, relatively, inside a vagina. More sperm = more likelihood one will survive to make it to the egg. It has absolutely nothing to do with the urge to inseminate more women and propagate the species.)

And look. People get genuinely upset and hurt when their significant other cheats on them. The reason they get so genuinely upset and hurt isn't because centuries of society has told them they should. Some people don't get upset when their SO has sex with other people, and those people are the ones in open relationships. They aren't everyone. They don't have a magical upbringing that has made them want to sleep with more people than the rest of us, especially obvious when you consider a lot of people in open relationships have siblings who would never want to be in one.

People need to stop pretending that polygamy is the default for everyone, and that we're all just suppressed prudes when we feel monogamy is what we require in a relationship. You want to be able to have a wife and a mistress/a husband and a... um, master? God, I don't even know what a woman's guy-on-the-side is termed. Anyway, you want both? Find someone okay with it, because otherwise you're a shitty person.

And always remember: if they cheat WITH you, they'll cheat ON you. I've never seen this not be the case. But I guess lust and other emotions make us think we're more special, and that's why they cheated on their SO for us, rather than the other person just... being someone who cheats because they don't realize they're the poster children for people who should be in open relationships. Unless they're cheating because they like the intrigue. Hmm.