First problem, his message to me explains to me what I wrote in my profile, shown here.
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| Because it is seriously fucking annoying being told you're perfect by someone who is only exposed to your romantic version of a resume. |
Now, here is the thing. This guy was below average in appearance, he was kind of pudgy (not overweight, but he had a bit of a paunch). None of this would be anything I would mention except for the fact that he mentions, multiple times, about how he does not like fat people, and he specifically mentions that "men are visual creatures."
Guess what? So are women! We also want to find the person we are dating attractive. This is a normal, human thing to want. I do not find it weird that you want someone attractive to date, I find it weird that you feel the need to specify that.
And his "fat person hate." Like, wtf, are you trying to make yourself look like a huge jerk? Because you've succeeded! Also, if you are going to hate on overweight people, you had damn well better be either fit or skinny.
Uuugh it is so annoying. I wonder if he has some sort of mental illness other than "dickhead."
I don't know why, but his entire profile made me cringe. And the fact that he specifically states that he has problems that will end when the finds "The One"... Really creeps me out.
ReplyDeleteSomething that bothers me when people say things like "men are visual creatures" and in the same context talk about how they don't like fat people (like this guy is doing), is how they assume everyone has the same preferences. Yes, the "norm" may be that most people like skinny, but not everyone does. And the attribute "attractive" is very individual. We all find different things attractive. Overweight does not equal unattractive (to all).
I agree with what you're saying, that we all want to find whoever we're dating attractive. I just don't think that one can assume that was is attractive to them is automatically what is attractive to everyone else.
So when he says that men as visual creatures... He's basically saying, be thin and fit the most common standards for beauty.
But there are so many people out there who are attractive, that wouldn't fit what we would normally consider beautiful.
Hmm... I feel like I'm getting a little too off-topic *lol* In any case, I think he sounds like a complete ass.
As a side note, is he basically saying that he's going to commit suicide when he's turning 30? (Number 2 in "Six things I could never do without").
Oh, yes, I definitely agree on the subjectiveness of attraction! We are not one size fits all, we come in all types and different people like all types. When I say we want someone attractive, I don't mean universally, I mean personally.
DeleteI think he thinks only women he finds attractive get messages, which is wrong.
And I think he is saying that in that point. Unless he finds the One to fix him. Yuck.
I think the only thing left to say at this point is...
DeleteRUN! Get as far away from this guy as possible!
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There is literally no chance I would give this guy a chance. Plus it helps he is in the USA!
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