I am actually pretty disgusted by this. Obviously, the man who was assaulted is not okay with it, as he reported it to the police. He's not going around high-fiving his friends because he got laid.
How is that funny? If it was a nineteen year old girl out clubbing and she was taken in a car and raped by four overweight men in their thirties, this would be considered a horror story. Instead, some dude thinks it's okay to make a joke about it because the women were older than the man.
Should I expect people to start asking what he was wearing? Maybe make some comments about how he shouldn't have been drinking and out on the street alone late at night, because you never know what could happen? Maybe some people insisting he must have wanted it, because otherwise he couldn't have had an erection, completely ignoring the fact that men, especially teenagers who are still in the throes of their hormones, don't have complete control over whether their penis stays flaccid or not.
Sexual assault is wrong, regardless of whether the victim was male or female. Is that a difficult concept?
Apparently, yes. Because there seems to be this idea that men always want sex, and are always happy to have sex, so they should be happy they got it. It's kind of sickening, and it's one of the few things MRAs and I agree about (although they seem to blame it on feminism, somehow missing the fact that the idea that men are raging horndogs always out for sex has been around for WAY LONGER than feminism has. So we agree it's wrong, just disagree on the cause).
I agree. Rape is rape. No matter who the victim and abuser is. It's still the same thing. It's a sad thing to see that the world hasn't evolved further than this. I guess this is why rape on men is so seldom reported.
ReplyDeleteThey're faced with an entirely different type of questioning to female victims. Not asked how drunk they were or what they were wearing, but if maybe he didn't actually like/want it instead.
What really strikes me is how Reddit treated this story versus a story about a young girl who was raped by four boys. Basically the same story, right? Young drunk person is raped by four people. Horrible thing.
DeleteBut on this guy's story, Reddit was enraged, calling those women bitches, talking about how it's not cool for women to rape men. Which obviously, it isn't. But there was no one who doubted the story, or insisted on calling it an "alleged rape."
On the girl's story, people were saying things like "the boys were drunk, too, so didn't she rape them?" and "it's just ALLEGED, she probably got drunk and then regretted having sex with four boys in one night the next day" or "she killed herself, so now we'll never know the real story."
But no one seemed to see the incredible hypocrisy there. I mean, feel free to call both alleged, which they are until proven. But if you won't critique a male victim the same way you would a female, shouldn't you maybe not critique the female?