So I've found that I am happier on Reddit if I avoid reading comments on any threads that aren't from smaller subreddits dedicated to things I enjoy. While it has been slowly getting better, with "stupid friendzoning bitch" memes getting upvoted to the front page but having the highest rated comment being about how the person posting is actually an asshole for expecting a girl to be a vending machine where you put nice in and sex comes out, it can still be rather disillusioning to realize how many people are cavemen and willing to talk about how they are cavemen.
One of the subreddits I think is fun is "ask women." I've skimmed the "ask men" subreddit, too, and it seems there are more variations in opinion of the men who answer things on AskMen than there are in women who answer things in AskWomen.
Except when it comes to personal experience things. Like this one question, where a guy asks "How much does it hurt the first time(s)?" The answers there range from "It didn't hurt at all, and was awesome!" to "It hurt so much because my hymen didn't break."
How unhelpful is that? His girlfriend could fall anywhere in the spectrum of first-time-pain. I have friends who didn't experience any pain. It hurt like a bitch the first handful of times and I bled for a week after (TMI, I know). Asking my friends who'd felt no pain wouldn't have given me a realistic idea of what my first time would have been like.
Could you imagine the disappointment? Going in, thinking "man, this should be a piece of cake!" and then being all "OH MY GOD WHERE DID THE RAZORS IN MY VAGINA COME FROM?!" (You're so welcome for that imagery and introduction to my thought process. I'm sure you all wanted to know precisely what I would compare my first few experiences to.)
Really, I figure if I can be open about my issues with depression I can be open about an experience most people go through once in their lives.
At least the guy hopefully understood that it could go either way when he read the range of replies.
ReplyDeleteMy first time was awful as well. I wasn't really interested in doing it in the first place, which probably didn't help *lol* Not razors though, fortunately!
The "Ask Women" thread seems a bit interesting. I might have to skim through it at some point.
Apparently I can't even type my own name correctly.. where did that extra "e" come from?
DeleteI think the "razors" thing is related to the bleeding. I guess it... uh, was a bunch of little tears inside. And I did want it! So it was actually kind of upsetting how un-fun I found it, haha.
DeleteAlso, heh, sometimes I'll spell my name wrong on the phone, and be really embarrassed.
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